Did you hear about Hilary Rosen, the woman who seemed to discount Ann Romney because she has never “worked a day in her life?”Â The internet sort of blew up after this comment.Â With good reason.Â Why anyone would say something like this about a person who raised 5 boys and is married to a politician (isn’t that a job itself?) is beyond me.Â Perhaps it was a goof, maybe she got a little nervous during her live TV interview and it just slipped out.Â Maybe not.Â Maybe Ms. Rosen, like so many other women before her got caught up in the “Mommy Wars” which pit woman against woman in the argument about whether it is better/harder/more worthwhile to work inside or outside of the home.
Seriously, can’t this issue be over already?Â It’s been going on for decades, and no one ever wins.Â I have two thoughts about this on-going and fruitless debate:
1. Most women are too busy doing whatever it is they do (raise children, take care of parents, sell cars, write books, make dinner) to engage in this debate or really care about how other women choose to spend their time.
2.Â The vast majority of women (and men) are doing the best they can with what they have.Â The Mommy Wars debate has always struck me as elitist and irrelevant to a huge percentage of families.Â What about the women who have absolutely no choice but to work?Â What about the women who would love to work but don’t have access to jobs, childcare, or the skills needed to find one?
Get over it ladies, gentleman, and the media especially.Â We all have too much work to do.