Welcome to Moms’ Month on Dr. Stephanie! This month I will be featuring guest posts from some awesome moms around the country. They will be sharing tips, tricks, and funny stories about motherhood. This will be a fun celebration – thanks for joining us! Today’s author is Katie Dupont. Welcome, Katie!
Hi! I’m Katie Dupont and I am a busy and happy personal trainer in San Antonio, Texas and mother of five; Ivy, 17, Karsten, 8, Kamden, 6, Sophie, 4 and Olivia, 9 months.
When asked what we want most for our kids, inevitably their true happiness in life makes the list. But how do we teach it? It seems these days we do so (or think we do so) by over-parenting them to it. Always putting options before them, giving them seemingly unlimited paths to choose. Are we really giving them the tools to seek out their own paths? Are we pursuing happiness for ourselves as an example?
A few years ago, I had one of the hardest easy decisions to make. I was in an abusive, destructive marriage with a man who craftily kept it from my children’s eyes, but I resigned myself to it because I told myself my kids’ security and happiness were the most important things. What I was failing to recognize was that the eggshells on which they watched me walk were the antithesis of happiness and security for any of us. I put on my big girl panties and left after 14 years. As scary as that was, my children have learned a valuable lesson. Happiness doesn’t happen to us; we must seek it out for ourselves. I know now that I’m a more complete person for myself and for them. Their boat was temporarily rocked but not capsized. Since then, I met and married the love of my life and we added a final arrow to the quiver. And when my 8 year old son sees the two of us hug and kiss, something he never saw his dad and I do, his proclamation is always the same….”Another happy ending!” What more could a mother want to hear?