I recently had an opportunity to speak with the folks over at Fatherly. The subject? Losing our cool (meaning: raising our voice, being irritable, impatient) with our kids.Â Here’s the thing: It happens to the best of us. Sometimes a lot. Here are some of my thoughts about stress, parenting and losing our temper with our kids:
â€œI think of it as an iceberg. The bulk of the stress is underneath the surface,â€ says Dr. Stephanie Smith, a clinical psychologist based in Erie, Colorado. â€œWeâ€™re not really paying attention, but it builds up throughout the day. It all piles up, but when we reach a certain level the tiniest little thing can tip us over the edge: weâ€™re out of Cheerios or whatever. Itâ€™s silly little things that end up being the breaking point.â€
The good news is, there can be some teachable moments when our kids see us feeling stressed out. Like this example:
â€œItâ€™s ok to take a few deep breaths, or an hour, (after a breakdown), but make sure to come back to it,â€ says Smith. â€œIn an age-appropriate, developmentally appropriate way say, â€˜Iâ€™m sorry, Iâ€™ve had a really rough day, and I kind of lost it for a minute. Iâ€™ll do better moving forward to deal with those feelings before that kind of thing happens again.’â€
To read the entire article, check it out on Fatherly.