Welcome to Moms’ Month on Dr. Stephanie! This month I will be featuring guest posts from some awesome moms around the country. They will be sharing tips, tricks, and funny stories about motherhood. This will be a fun celebration – thanks for joining us! Today’s author is Megan Schimmelpfennig. Welcome, Megan!
Photo: Awaken Photography
Hi! I’m Megan Schimmelpfennig, the lucky wife of Sam, and blessed mom of three children ages 6, almost 3 and 1! I’m also the founder and owner of my online children’s boutique, Trendy Tots ~n~ Polka Dots.
The definition of motherhood has changed significantly for me over the last two years. This change started with our move from Arizona to Colorado, and having to leave my job as an advertising account manager in the corporate world for nearly six years. A week after arriving in Colorado, we were thrilled with the news baby #3 was on the way, and little did I know, I was about to enter a new ‘season’ of being a full-time, stay at home mom. I feel very fortunate to be able to stay at home with my children, but I’ll be honest, it’s been quite a transition. Going from striving to meeting and exceeding sales goals and receiving awards for doing so, to striving just to get laundry done, the house picked up and little mouths fed numerous times a day has been no easy feat! Needless to say, success has a whole new meaning for me. Some days I feel like the ring leader of a three-ring circus and other days I feel like I’m up on the tight rope trying to balance it all.
By having the awesome experience of being part of a MOPS Group (Mothers of Preschoolers) since moving to CO, I have not only strengthened my relationship with God, but He has made it quite clear this is the season I’m meant to be in, right now, and I couldn’t be happier or more content. With all the ups, downs, frustrations, challenges and some days very little praise or acknowledgement, I’ve realized I don’t need awards to prove I’m accomplishing great things. I’m fulfilled when I see my children be kind and loving to each other and make good choices in difficult situations. When they look at me with their big blue eyes, tears streaming down their cheeks, and they look to me for consolation and I’m here for them. Being able to impact my children every day brings me immeasurable joy. I’ve grown to be a more patient mom, cherishing even the time-outs and lessons learned, as I know this season will pass all too quickly. I look at my patio door and so many times think, “I love those little handprints. Some day they won’t be there and I will give anything to see them and have a noisy house again.” During this season, I’ve learned to focus on what’s really important. I know that for all of us our time is so limited with all that we have to do and the places we need to be, but at the end of the day, it all shakes down to priorities. Our children are quick to make note of our priorities as well.
One of the things I love about motherhood is God created us all to be unique moms just like our children are unique! And just as we shouldn’t compare our children to other children, we shouldn’t compare ourselves to other moms. We set high standards for ourselves as moms and seek approval from other human beings. We sometimes feel like the biggest compliment we could receive is to be told that we are a wonderful mother. It’s nice to hear, but I don’t believe it validates anything. Why? Because we only need to be the mother that God created each of us to be. That looks different for all of us. At the beginning of everyday, my goal is to be the mom God has meant for me to be and raise my children to be the person that God created each of them to be! I find when I keep feeding my soul with His word and listening to His voice, I’m on the right track in sticking with His plan. I’m thankful motherhood is not a destination, because we would miss so many blessings along this journey. And through this journey, God gives us His grace when we make mistakes. He wouldn’t create us to be mothers without leading and guiding us and being our constant mentor. What a comforting thought! My wish for all moms is to live in the present moment of the season you are in. And remember, the days go by slowly, but the years pass quickly and before we know it, this precious season is over.