I have spent way too much time in the last 5 days grieving people in my community who have taken their own lives. It’s been horrible.
I don’t know if we (meaning my little town in Northern Colorado) are the norm or not, but we have been inundated with loss since the end of November. We are all shaking our heads and wiping our eyes, and wondering the same things:
What could we have done differently?
Sadly, we won’t ever get answers to these questions (the cruel and heartless aftermath of suicide). In fact, even the most expert of the experts on suicide struggle to know how best to prevent it. So here’s my thought:
We have to talk about it
What I mean is: we need to talk with our kids about suicide and sadness and rash decisions from the moment they can understand such things (which is probably younger than we give them credit for). We need to talk to our parents and grandparents and nieces and nephews. We need to talk to our partners and spouses about coping with feelings of sadness and despair. We need to make resources like this available and even prominent in our homes.
The holidays can be painful and lonely for so many of us. But suicide never helps.
Reach out, talk and share.