Been in your house for the last few months? It can be a little scary to get back out into the world. Socializing is a muscle – when we stop using it, it gets a little rusty. And that can lead to worry and anxiety about getting back out into the world after our COVID-induced isolation.
I recently wrote an article over at Health eCareers about how to manage getting back out there: to BBQ’s, the gym, work, and school. **Obviously each community is re-opening at its own pace, please be mindful of local guidance about current COVID precautions**
I was recently interviewed for an article about deflection over at Forge. While inspired by political events, like debates, the article offers so much more than the same old commentary about how politicians just say what they want to say and don’t answer the darn questions!
For example, the author describes different types of deflection used in various communications. Check out some of the excerpts from the article:
The Pivot: You recognize the question, then immediately pivot away from it, using a response like, â€œI understand what youâ€™re saying, but I think the more important point isâ€¦â€ Then shift into the subject you really want to be talking about.
The Spin: â€œInstead of saying youâ€™re leaving because your job makes you feel like a cog in the wheel, or because your voice isnâ€™t heard, turn it into a positive: â€˜Thatâ€™s exactly why Iâ€™m hereâ€”because your company offers me a seat at the table and an opportunity to make real change.â€™
The Attack: It was 1984, and then-73-year-old Ronald Reagan was facing questions about his age in his campaign against a younger opponent. â€œAt the debate against Walter Mondale, when they asked, Reagan said, â€˜I wonâ€™t make age an issue, or exploit my opponentâ€™s youth and inexperience,â€™â€ Bratt says. â€œIt became this really famous deflection.â€
Another take away? Deflection can be used in some really positive ways (think: steering the conversation away from politics when talking with a neighbor at the bus stop). But, using it too much can backfire.
I was reading an article recently about Farm Stress, and the overall mental health crisis that is going on within our country’s farming communities. The pain and suffering is real, and very upsetting.
While I am not a farmer or rancher, I can try to understand the extreme conditions of the job: It’s physically dangerous, unpredictable because of weather, crop prices, and international relationships. Farmers are also making up a smaller and smaller portion of our population (less than 2%), and tend to be more geographically spread out than in years past. All of these factors – and others – combine to create a pressure-cooker of stress.
People are taking notice, however, and working hard to help those who are suffering. I discovered some wonderful resources through North Dakota State University. Here’s one:
For more information on farm stress and how to cope, check out this article:
Seem to have more of everything (money, success, friends, possessions) than you
Appear better at their job than you
Whatever the specifics, it’s actually not all that unusual to have feelings of jealousy – particularly at work as we spend so much time with our co-workers. But what can you do to tame the green monster?
Check out my recent article over at Health eCareers for ideas about to 1) decipher why exactly you’re having jealous feelings 2) what to do about them.
Does work make you angry? Do you have trouble controlling your temper with your co-workers? Do you lost your cool on a regular basis?
Angry outbursts aren’t just annoying, unprofessional and upsetting to everyone; high levels of anger have also been linked to a number of health problems. These include increased risk for: heart attacks, heart disease and strokes. High levels of anger have also been linked to a weakened immune system.
I recently wrote an article on Health eCareers offering tips for how to manage your anger at work in particular. Here’s one tip:
Want more ideas about how to manage your irritability at work? Check out the entire article here:
Looking for a new job? That process can be exhausting! And overwhelming. And exciting. And exhausting again. So much has changed about the job search process in recent years: on-line job boards and resumes, computerized personality assessments, LinkedIn!
Have you ever had a terrible, awful, annoying, rude, unfair boss?
OF COURSE YOU HAVE!
At some point in our lives, all of us have had a terrible boss. My terrible boss story includes frozen fish food, piranhas and Christmas Eve – but I won’t get into the details.
Anyway, I recently wrote an article over at Health eCareers that included some tips for how to cope with the bad boss in your life. Here’s a glimpse:
Stop talking so much
When Iâ€™ve had bad bosses in the past, my first instinct has been to talk about it. With family, with friends, with the grocery store clerk; with just about anyone who will listen. The trouble with talking about it is, it can take a stressor that takes up eight hours of your day and stretches it to taking up 10, 12, 14 hours, or even more. Why give your boss more power and control than they already have? Try keeping work at workÂ and reclaim your off-work hours for things that are fun, relaxing and pleasurable.
To read the rest of the tips, check out the entire story here.