As soon as Halloween rolls around, psychologists around the country know to expect their phones to start ringing. The combination of shorter days (and less sunlight), the time change and the impending holidays proves to be a tough mix for a lot of us. As a result mood can go down, anxiety can go up and mental health can fly right out the window.
There are about a million reasons why the holidays can be hard on our mental health. But contrary to popular opinion, it’s not just those who have lost a loved one who might struggle during this season. It’s also those who have strained family relationships, those who struggle financially, those who aren’t where they thought they’d be at this point in life, and those who don’t feel they measure up at any point in the year – let alone this one.
The holidays are also tough on mental health because so much is expected of us. We’re expected (often by ourselves AND others) to have perfect homes, perfect clothes, and perfect appetizers set on a perfectly-decorated table. We’re also expected to have smiles on our faces, thanks in our hearts and plenty of joy and Christmas cheer to spread to everyone (even when we don’t feel it ourselves). Some of us don’t get invited to any holiday gatherings and feel dejected about that. Others get invited to so many parties that the entire month of December is spent in the car scurrying from one festivity to another. Some have no one to celebrate with, others have plenty of people around – but not the one they wish were there.
No matter how you cut it, the holidays are tough on mental health. For that reason, it’s important to be aware of the resources around us to help us get through until January 1st. Here are a couple useful links:
Surviving the Holidays – With Flair
Tips for Reducing Holiday Stress – Produce for Kids
Tips for Parents on Managing Holiday Stress – APA
If times get really tough and you’re finding it hard to cope alone, consider reaching out to a psychologist. Here’s how to find one close to you:
APA Psychologist Locator
If you need to talk to someone right away, try:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
Suicide Hotlines by state